A heartfelt expression|Reason, season or a lifetime.

A while back I wrote about something I heard in a sermon about categorising your friends and even family members. It was like a on switch that  clicked in my mind and it was clear what I had to do. Now I have come at another "reason, season or lifetime" point. Why does friendships need to be so hard? Well, I suppose it is not meant to be and maybe we just complicate it ourselfs, but for me..it is HARD.

I think I did mention this before, but in 2010 I moved out of my parents house, not around the corner, not just a little way from them, no. I moved 1300km, give or take, to another province. I left my family and my friends, the people dear to my heart, in the Western Cape and came to the Free State then and now the North West Province. Looks like I don't do anything half. Hows that saying "Go big or go home".

I remember crying all the way and that was about a 14 hours drive. I would stop for a few seconds and then start again. I got the letter my parents wrote me and I would ball my eyes out. But I am getting ahead of myself now. If all goes well and I can find a job I will be back in Cape Town asap.

I went to Cape Town over a weekend to attend a wedding and that is where this whole season, reason, lifetime- thing hit me. I felt like a total stranger and just "another' person attending. I did not feel a part of anything any more. I always thought that we will always be friends the way we used to be, but it does not work like that. Distance makes a huge difference. 

I remember telling my dad everybody moved on. I was still stuck in 2010 and they are in 2014. And I don't think that the way I feel at the moment is only because of relationships that is no longer, but also a few other things. I just think that this is the biggest one I have to deal with. People move on and in a way I can not accept it because I believe with all relationships it is for a lifetime and I want to keep everyone as close as possible, but even for me it is a bit difficult sometimes.

I have been hurt in friendships so many times, but I always forgave. I believe in the good, but you come to a point where you just can't any more and I think this is it. It is time to accept things the way they are. Move on, move out and move forward.

As silly as this sounds I went onto google because google is my friend and I found this lovely poem about friendships. 

Reason, Season, or Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
— Unknown

This is an eye opener to me. I think we all believe that friendships are made to last forever and we are right, but very few. I just think, that I hoped that even with distance all will be OK, but sometimes you are just not on the same page.

I will mourn over the friendships lost, but I will make new friends. And I am sure people will hurt me, but that is the way. I think I must just remember this and carry it close to my heart.

This was a very deep session and I know it is not happy as always. But I needed to write this down and get it out of my system. Next week will be happier. I do have some cool stuff to share with you.

Thanks for reading. I appreciate your time.

speak to you soon...or sooner! xoxo

Me and the little things

I am so excited and it looks like I’m going to be like this for a while, but on my own for some reason. The second part of this week has just been so exciting!

Now, you all know that I have started a YouTUBE (if you didn’t-now you know) channel and I LOVE it! I am just in awe of how many YouTubers there are and that they actually make a living out of this. It is absolutely awesome.

Now, the idea was never to make money out of it, but hey, if it happens-why not? Any way. I realised that in some way it does not really matter what you do, it’s who you know. I subscribed to a guy’s channel and his girlfriend started doing YouTube videos round about the same time I did. Also with the trending topics and ideas and guess what happened, she has more than 500k subscribers! I have been doing the same kind of stuff, vlogging, hauls, how to, maybe I haven’t been doing the “right” video’s. I have 7 subscribers at the moment. I hope in a year’s time I can look back and say “hey, look how far I’ve come”. I really do enjoy recording and editing the videos. Any way. Enough moping! There’s so much stuff to be excited about, even if it is only me and the small things.

I saw these cute little fairy lights on Zoella’s and Nikki’s channels and I wish I could have some of those. Then today as I was surfing Facebook I saw a “Like this page” advert-The Fairly Light Ladies. Opening it up I realise YESSSSS, I found it!!! in SA! hahaha Just a note I have not really been looking for these lights, yet, so I have not focused on them. I have not seen them yet and thus it was a huge surprise and excitement when I saw this page. If you would like to check them out here is the link (https://www.facebook.com/pages/The-Fairy-Light-Ladies/518029181554350?ref=profile) Now I can decorate my house with them when the stock is available again. Be sure I will show you some before and after pictures. It is going to look so gorgeous!

The other thing that happened to me was I heard Katie Sky’s music on another YouTubers channel and it sounded REALLY good. I came across her own channel and the one song is just better than the next one. I am always looking for music that will fit the “mood” of the video and everything has copy right on it. But, this channel is different. I emailed her manager/brand label and asked if I am allowed to use it. I did not think he will reply, I mean I have a channel with 7 subs and it is not monetized. So you can imagine my surprise when the reply came back and he was all like “yes please” and “thank you for the support’ and “yeah go ahead”. I am sitting at work reading his email en want to jump out of my skin. It is the small things that just give you that ray of hope sometimes. Off course I went and spent the last few cents I had left and bought 4 of her tracks on iTunes. Go check out her latest single “Monsters”. It is b-e-a-utiful! (https://www.youtube.com/user/katieskymusic) So, you will be hearing more of Katie Sky on my channel :)

Today I published my first favorites video.(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R-LlIjHj0I4) I really enjoyed filming it. I have so many ideas and I want to film and upload it, but then I am afraid I’ll run out of ideas! So I will just stick to my once a week.

I know this haven't been a very good read, but I had to pin down my astonishment with YouTube and how it works and not about what you do/know but WHO.

So, thanks for reading.

Speak to you soon...or sooner! xx

Dead things on my left

What? Writers block. Never heard of it. Yes, I have....I am stuck this morning! I think I now know what a writer feels like or what Cal felt like on Lie To Me when he couldn’t start his book! It’s kind of panicky!

So, what’s been happening the past week? Not much actually. My husband and I are shooting (this sounds wrong, but I don’t know if there is another term to use) a challenge video today. Thanks to Quest Acquired (http://www.youtube.com/user/QuestAcquired) for the idea! It’s the Chubby Bunny challenge. I am not going to explain it; you have to watch the video. Obviously it is not available yet. We are ahead of schedule.

Well then, it actually defeats the purpose of me telling you. Ok, BUT you can subscribe to my YouTube channel (http://www.youtube.com/user/elrehvdh) and then you will see it first, before anybody else! The best thing was that he actually agreed to do this with me after I persuaded him! 

Today is a bit of a sad day for me. Last week this time I was with my family in Cape Town and I miss them so much! BUT, this sad story might have a happy ending.

YESSSS, I forgot about this, and that I have not told you yet! We are moving (back) to CAPE TOWN! I’m going back and hubby is coming with! hehehe Can I get a “Woot woot”!! There is the minor issue of when, but it’s been decided. Now, it’s to get a job, enter the market and get moving...eventually. So start praying peeps! I am SUPER excited! My husband loves the ocean and who wouldn’t want to live in Cape Town! I 

made a video of my whole weekend last week..

Watch it here:---->  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AoM-QFmNvSg  <-----

And my previous blog is also about my weekend if you don’t want to watch the video. I know some people are readers and some watchers.

I am at work today. It’s cold, I need chocolate, coffee and carbs! But, I am not allowed to complain seeing that I only work 3 Saturday’s a year. It is NOT that bad.

Oooo wait! I just remembered something that happened this week. So my lovely kitty, Thom, have been leaving me presents all over the house. One of my “photo a day” topics was on my left. So down the hall I skip to my room the morning, busy getting ready for work and there it is..on my left. A cute little dead mouse with its feet sideways in the air..Awe, thanks Tom. That is SO sweet. So lovely, and I took a picture.

Last night I ran down to the room to fetch something and my husband follows. When I was on my way back to the TV, guess what? Another one..right. in. front. of my bedroom door. My husband asks me “Did you see it, he left another one for you”. I am flabbergasted. “Nope”. I ran past the dead mouse (a larger one this time) and did not even see it. I almost stepped on it. ( I would have lost it...completely). So strange that he started doing it now again. Maybe I look a bit under fed to him LOL!!!! hahaha As if. Any way.

So, I will love and leave you. Go subscribe to my YouTube channel, follow my blog. Join me on Twitter. Add me on Instagram. let’s interact!

Speak to you soon...or sooner!

Withdrawel symptoms, ice and a wedding

I am SO late with my blog I am having withdrawal symptoms!  What a great weekend I had and an event filled one that was!

I flew down to Cape Town on the 6^th of June. It was cold. It was dark, but it brightened up when we got to Cape Town. First I had to keep myself seated and not jump up at poor Errol (those who do not know who I am talking about, his real name is Christo Davids and he is an actor on the 7de Laan soapie in SA), it was the second time I flew with him (well in the same plane). He greeted me with his smile and a wave and of course the Barney doll.. I have NO explanation for this. The poor Barney even got spanked.

Yes, I had to be a freak and ask for a photo. I don’t usually do this because I am all for respecting their privacy and treating them as human beings. Everyone else was trying to ignore the poor guy. Poor thing. But not me. So I approached him and got my photo. So sweet of him.

We had a busy Saturday morning. I went to visit a very, very good friend of mine and his family and we did a challenge that morning. Coke and Mentos.. This spells danger to me. I was convinced if I eat Mentos and drink coke I will explode. Luckily I am still alive and all good. But I think this has to do with the fact that he cheated.. When the video is live, go watch it. You will see what I mean.  I will announce the video in the blog (and Twitter..and Facebook..) before it airs. 

Any who. MY BEST FRIEND GOT MARRIED SATURDAY!!!! I am SO happy for her. I am still drying off tears. She looked so beautiful and we had so much fun. I wish I could stay longer, but my dad was my date and it was a distance to get there and back. 

Let me first tell you. We get in the car and start driving and I am looking at the mountains, the snow , it’s so beautiful. As we enter Porterville my dad casually states.. “ So, where will this church be now”. Wait, what?! We drove here without the GPS and we don’t know where the church is...( we knew where the venue with the food was! hahaha) Considering that there is about 15 minutes left before the wedding starts, we casually drive down the main road and my dad spots the church tower. My first question is, “how do you know it is the right one?” “Oh” says my dad, “all the NG Churches have towers”.. Ok then. So, the church is situated in Kerk street in Porterville. How original. I tell my dad what if this the wrong church and we wedding crash someone else’s wedding. Imagine that. At the end it was the right one and so pretty it was.  We had fun with the photo props and all my friends and it was a joyous celebration!

The rest of the weekend was fairly chilled. Had lunch with the family, visit the cousin, visit another friend. Did a video with my sis. It will probably be uploaded in June..maybe or July. I am still deciding. It was just so much fun!!

Latest edition to our family. Well, my cousin's family :)

 From left to right. My friend and I, Blaze (my sisters adopted husky) and I chilling on the bed. Some bonding time, My sister and I being silly and my little cousin.

I had lots of tea this weekend.  Now, I am actually a self-proclaimed professional coffee drinker. But, I made myself a cup of coffee one morning and as I opened the bottle I say to myself, this is not right.. The coffee is a bit funny and sticky, BUT I make it any way. DAMN!!! It was horrible. Should have gone with my gut. All my mom had to say was, no that’s very old throw it out... I forgot to do it. I hope they forget..REVENGE! hahahaha

Well, you are lucky. I am posting this blog today and the weekend a new one will follow. 

OOOOOO, I almost forgot. So on Monday morning we are on our way to airport when I receive a SMS from Kulula, “We are sorry to inform you, but your flight is delayed with an hour”. Well, isn’t that fun? I am not too upset because then we had extra time to get to the airport, and that meant I did not have to work. Arrive there, I am informed that it might be later because they are trying to defrost the plane’s wings and the runway..Where in my life did I imagine this EVER happening in South Africa? We don’t have a snowy, frosty climate.. Its global warming! But, it happened and I think that was the most interesting new I EVER received. By the way, the flight was delayed by 2 hours at the end.

Stay warm. Its flippen freezing. 

Speak to you soon...or sooner!

Ps. Thank you for reading! xx

Tweet, color and LIVE your life away!

Life is like a merry-go-round, round and round in circles and sometimes it is up and sometimes it is down. Well, ain’t that cheesy!But, it is exactly how it goes. I was reminiscing about my life this morning. I thought, well I have some tweet news, life events and stuff to share. So here we go.

Last night I uploaded my video, but did not "promote" it. When I switched on the computer all ready to post the tweet and link and whatever follows, I saw it! On my twitter account it stated the number 999. I am at:

 999 TWEETS! 

In that moment I realised I have been looking forward to this the whole week (carefully tweeting) so that I could have an epic (well in my mind) tweet for my 1000th!  And this is what I came up with:

Of course Watson needed to be a part of this e*p*i*c event! We practised with my husband so that I could get the camera ready, but Watson did not like that and when he saw me he would jump, fly and just be all naughty all over the place. But, when it's time to shine and mummy is with me. Hell yah. I look awesome (I think this is in Watson's mind!).

And then ta ta taaa! 1000 tweets! Smooooth!

Backtracking one day. I have a standing appointment every 3 months with my hair stylist. This last week was the longest week of my life (well, second longest week seeing that I have coloured my hair in March last). So off I went and all excited and freaking out like a 5 year old for some toy. 

And what would a trip be to the hair salon without a picture! I saw it on another youtubers video (the idea) and then jumped on finding a picture on Pinterest (because it is just so much cooler than Google-IM JOKING)

I recorded the whole episode here:

http://youtu.be/SH8oMJRMZFw

Here is the end product. Man, can I just say that I LOVE IT!

I am not afraid of trying out new things. I have not had any pastel colours on my hair (except a yellow oops), but I've been a "blondes have more fun", a "Brunettes have more fun" , a"Sexy red head" and a "Mysterious black head". So, now lets do a combo! I'll let you know if someone (or me) come up with a cheeky saying for a combo! hahaha )

I don't know if I have mentioned this, but we have puppies as well. I am a grandma of 6! hahaha I just wish they would grow faster so that we can play a bit before they leave (thank goodness). Ain't they just the cutest things...

Just look at that little buts! Cuuuute!

Any who. I am excited. June is going to be a great month, I just feel it in my bones. I have a few stuff I am going to do. On instagram and twitter I am doing a Photo-a-day- challenge starting today. I am really looking forward. I LOVE pictures and I think this is going to be fun. 
Next weekend, I am off to my best friends wedding, are you ready my friend 'cause I am leaving on this jet plane and I am camera armed and dangerous! *evil grin*
We are also doing a few video recordings next weekend and it is going to be epic (yah, I know. Old word, great for me to use).
I look forward to sharing this with you. So stay tuned. And if you would like to be as cool as me-go follow me on twitter and instagram! You don't want to miss this month!

Speak to you soon or sooner!!

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